Success. Just Beyond your Reach.

What you know and what you have done to be successful thus far only goes as far as your own horizons. Yet beyond your horizon…just beyond your reach…lies an even greater potential of success.

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The question is: Are you ready to tap into that success? If the answer is YES…then it is time to get a Business Coach.

A Business Coach is a professional and personal development to promote continuous growth and strength. It’s about creating motivation and success in your business and as a natural extension, your whole life.  A Business Coach will help you move forward: clarifying your goals, creating a strategy for completing those goals, and building a support framework to keep you moving forward. You will be able to achieve more in less time, taking the steps that are right for you personally.

The time is now. Surely you have waited long enough…

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Investments that Matter

You work hard and are successful.

But what if the success you are truly capable of has barely been touched?

Do you have a support team? Do you have someone to help you expand on your thoughts, support your ideas and hold you accountable for your action plans?

The mind is a dark and dangerous place…don’t go there alone! Get a Coach.

Clearly you have the drive it takes to achieve success, but what if you’ve barely scratched the surface of what is possible? With the support of a Coach, you will experience success more efficiently and effectively. You will find yourself in constant motion, with fresh ideas and new perspectives. You will have two minds, working as one!

In order to be successful as a Business Owner, you will constantly need to assess whether something is an investment or an expense. Investments are critical to a successful future. Expenses can often wait.

So what do you want?  Do you want a successful business that creates consistent financial freedom with the controls in the palm of your hand? Or are you willing to take a gamble and see where it lands?

“Having a Coach is the difference between knowing what to do…and doing it.”
C. Patnick, President of Capella Consultants

A Business Coach is perfect for:

  • Successful business people who want to exceed their expectations.
  • Refining and building upon existing skills and talents.
  • Increasing profitability, projecting confidence and organizing time better.
  • Creating a successful system that fosters business now, while planting the necessary seeds for the future.

The value of having a Business Coach speaks for itself even in the very first session.

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The time is now. It is later than you think.

What you AND your High School Senior need most this year.

Somehow the summer came and went during a nap you don’t remember taking and you awake to find that it is September. To-do lists have been misplaced, senior year is already a whirlwind and college applications need to be submitted in the next 4 months. You feel overwhelmed, anxious and worried and you’re not even the one going to college!

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However, it is 1pm on Saturday and HE is still asleep. How can he sleep when there is so much to do? Shouldn’t he have a plan for the day? Some kind of plan of what he has to do next? A plan for college tours, a list of pros and cons of the schools already visited…or how about that room! How can anyone think, never mind sleep…in a room that is covered in clothing like that?

Unfortunately it doesn’t get any better when he wakes up. He grumbles through a giant bowl of cereal, showers, and then says he’s going out. When I try my best to run through all of the things on the ever-growing list, he barely looks up, mumbles that he will do it later…and leaves as he spends the rest of the day pretending that his phone isn’t attached to the palm of his hand, and he doesn’t see my texts.

I spend the rest of the day mumbling (to myself) “I don’t care…if you don’t get everything done in time I guess you won’t go to college.” As if caring is actually optional.

Sound familiar?

I am sure it does, since it is very common. As a matter of fact, it is not only common, but also necessary for both of you.

Senior year is the most important one on record. While it is also frustrating and worrisome, with all of its’ emotional rollercoasters, everything both of you experience (in many cases, the whole family) is just what needs to occur for a successful year in college. However there are many things you can do to survive feeling ignored, unwanted and out of control.

Your role as the parent.

Lean in.
This will be the year that you learn to lean in and detach from the outcome. Literally lean into whatever your son/daughter is presenting. I don’t mean to suggest you should allow them to be disrespectful, ignoring curfews or laws, but simply allow them to experience life as a senior, however it unfolds. It is about lowering your shoulders and understanding that while they are not quite ready to stand on their own, this is the year for them to figure it out.

Don’t panic.
The thought of accepting everything (especially at 3pm when they are still sleeping!) is challenging, while detaching from the outcome may feel remotely like abandonment. But it is simply a way to look at the same situation with a new lens. It is a simple way to care deeply about a situation or another person from an objective point of view, which creates the ability to care, but not be controlled by or invested in how the person responds.

Then you will be able to truly impact your emerging adult in a meaningful way.

Understand what they are experiencing:

1 – Worry about getting into a good college.
2 – Concerns about letting you down.
3 – Wanting to be independent.
4 – Wanting the freedom, while still needing help.
5 – Fear of leaving friends and family behind.
6 – Fear of the unknown.

The more you talk at your teen, the more they will ignore you. Instead, create a balance of simple strategies and thought-provoking questions that will give them the help they need to take initiative.

Helping without hindering:
The idea is to guide his/her thinking with strong questions that foster productivity and organization. A great way to start is to compartmentalize the college search process by keeping it separate from all other senior year tasks.

Planning: The best planning is not done quietly in your head! Start by purchasing a notebook (or even a planner) that is just for senior year tasks. A successful college freshman year will be one that is organized. This simple idea of a notebook just for the college search process is a great way to model organization. Use it for every task that needs to be accomplished and check it weekly.

Discuss: Share the idea about the notebook with your senior. Be honest about how you’re feeling about the process and give them the space to share how are feeling about it.
What you might say: I want you to know that I feel pretty overwhelmed with this search process too and am hoping if we can organize everything that needs to be done, it will feel less overwhelming. I even bought a notebook for you that would help us stay on task. What do you think?

Create a List: Now it is time to get the running mental list onto paper! This step will also model an important process they will need once in college: Organizing tasks. The American College Health Association-National College Health Assessment revealed that 84% of college freshman feel overwhelmed by all they have to do, so let’s start helping them now by setting reasonable and attainable goals. Keep it simple.
What you might say: Can you make a list of all the things that need to be done in the next 6 months? Include everything you can think of and let me know if you need any help.

Chunking: One way to avoid overload is to group the list into important headers, which will create several smaller lists and feel less overwhelming.
What you might say: Wow, that is quite a list! It might seem more manageable if we could think of 3 or 4 categories and then put the tasks into the appropriate section in the notebook. Can you think of some categories?

Deadlines: Timelines dramatically reduce stress. Knowing what to do is helpful, but knowing when to do it alleviates the worry surrounding it.
What you might say: If we knew when each of these things needed to be done, we could work backwards and figure out when to start. Could you put a due date next to each item you listed? 

By asking them to do only one thing at a time, they will feel more confident about completing the task and less likely to ignore it. In addition, they will sense your desire to help as well as your confidence in them to do it alone. In addition, your detachment from the outcome will be great practice for both of to remember that there is more than one way for problems to be solved, and that our way, is not always the best way. This detachment will foster their independence and yours too!

There is a delicate balance senior year between holding on and letting go. However, if you are truly open to everything and attached to nothing, you will be present and happy as you enjoy the last high school year in a way that leaves you both feeling successful.

Labor Day. Missing the Sun…and Her.

Labor Day weekend has always been a big deal in our family. I suppose it is in most families, signifying the end of summer fun, a reminder of school bells waiting as the leaves begin to fall, and the end of several months where families make time to be together.  Not sure why we don’t make time for each other like that all year long, but perhaps the warmth of the sun really does bring out the best in us.

Since we are blessed with the use of my parents’ beach house, the joy of summer beginnings and the pangs of its’ ending somehow seem even greater. My mom especially felt it once she retired at age 70 and began to spend her summers there. It was her passion, with her mosaic art studio set up in the basement, her oasis of peace tucked under a large hat as she sat by the water and her place of strength to fight, upon being diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer.

She was exceptional. At everything. Even fighting cancer.

Once diagnosed though, the start of summer was not just the warmth on her skin, but a sign that she had made it another year. Signs of life.   Yet as good as the beginnings were, the endings were harder, as she would stare into the water, praying for just one more beginning.

The first end of summer seemed impossible, as she would talk about articles of clothing that she might never wear again. Clothes she had grown to associate with the beach. There were tears over everything that went in a suitcase and remorse over the things that didn’t. But by the 2nd summer, knowing she had surpassed the survival odds by 2 years, it was a little different. Perhaps we got comfortable in this place of ‘living’, or confident or maybe just more understanding of what we could and could not control.

I am not sure. But what I know for sure is that when I took this picture of her and my dad on the bench he gifted her for their anniversary last year, I did not think this would be the first and last time I would take this picture. Not because I was in denial about this heart wrenching disease, but because I had stopped allowing myself to think that way.

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After all, ‘Life was for the living’, as my dad would say…and that was what we were doing.

This year though, every step we took had an entirely different meaning, gingerly landing onto the souls of our feet, praying the earth would not swallow us alive. Praying that our knees were strong enough to hold us up. Praying that whatever she had left us with, was enough to keep us moving forward. This summer, we simply prayed for strength to carry on. With merely the presence of her spirit and the belief that she was here, we delicately put one foot in front of the other.

I think my dad and I pulled it off, by forcing ourselves to live in her place of paradise, taking care of the flowers and the garden…keeping things in the house just the way she would have wanted it. While many visits felt impossible, being surrounded by her space felt peaceful, with the sweet slight smell of gardenia in the air making me feel certain she was still here. Somewhere.

I took pictures of her beautiful mosaics, as if seeing them for the first time and dad created new beautiful art as well helping us stretch into the beauty of the unknown. And as we rounded the corner of her 6-month anniversary of passing…we began to find new ways to laugh and talk about her with half smiles on our faces. And though we didn’t mention it as much, the loss of a human like my mom was a loss we would not completely recover from. Ever. Instead, we would simply learn to carry on the way she said she wanted us to, with each of us caring for each other and living to the fullest potential we could.

It’s not that we don’t cry now. It’s just that now we find more healing in each other’s company and cry more in the depths of the silence of the night, rather than we are together.

This Labor Day happened to call for very bad weather. Hurricane weather no less. But we went anyway because that is what mom would have done. I crossed the bridge in record-breaking time and was relieved to once again collapse into my dad’s arms, knowing we had once again…made it.

By Saturday morning though, the only talk in the town was about leaving. How and when people would get out of town. Get out before the storm hits or wait it out and head home after. Dad was certain he would leave before hand, as was most of the beach goers, and while I knew I wasn’t equipped to stand the storm alone, I also knew I couldn’t leave before heading to the beach.

I could hear mom’s voice in the distance say, “We are going to leave without even going to the beach?”

No, I wasn’t. And so I bundled up my puppy and we headed to the stormy beach just to sit and think.

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It occurred to me then what Labor Day was all about: Strength, prosperity and well-being. It suddenly made sense to honor my mom on this Labor Day, knowing that while her contributions may not have been to the country, she sure did quite a job contributing to a different type of home-land. The one that offers a base to our Home Team, our family.