If you do not feel fully aligned, inside and out, spring may be just what you have needed to get moving in the right direction. Even if in this minute, you aren’t sure which direction to move. Let’s go…let’s realign with the blooming of the flowers.

Be still? Ha! We laugh in the face of being still. Why would we do that? If you don’t know, thanks to the world of technology gifting us immediate answers, all you really need is about 3-5 minutes. If you can bare to wait that long, you will no doubt have opinions and facts to choose from right at your fingertips. Why would we need to go slow when we can move at a lightening pace? Well, there are some important reasons why!

Imagine if we chose a different perspective in the way we helped others. And instead of constantly doing things for others to make ourselves more comfortable, we just ‘let them’ do it on their own? Let’s take a look at what it means to be truly helpful…

Sometimes, the place you are used to, is not the place where you belong. It’s not that you are lost, you just have the sense that post-pandemic has left you feeling a bit misplaced. You are not alone.

I’ve been thinking about the senses that we choose to trust, while being skeptical of others. And also wonder how we are letting these stories get in our way. I mean, there are definitely things we just need to believe, in order to carry on, so what is it that keeps our feet moving in complete darkness as long as our arms are extended?

Empty spaces. I used to count the empty spaces. A continuous checklist of who wasn’t here. Analyzing and over analyzing the reasons given and wondered who just didn’t want to be here. Or rather, who didn’t pick me, who else would feel not chosen, and how I would smooth out everyone else’s feeling around this madness in my mind. Was that ever my job or just an over embellished sense of self that I could make others feel better?

Have you ever, and I mean, ever, said ‘no, I definitely can’t do that’ and then unbeknownst to yourself, actually did that thing?! Swim across the lake. Write that book. Get your first client. Get your 100th client. Complete that research project. Fix that thing that has been broken for-ever!?

Yes?! Then you know it’s possible. The question is how do we repeat it? How do we get past the point of saying, no, I can’t, to maybe I can, to I did it!

I am hours away from turning 55 years old. I have asked myself a hundred times how I feel about this number and quite honestly, I can’t come up with a feeling at all. I have tried to digest the number, put it in perspective and even rationalize it. Reminding myself that even if I live to be 100, I have less life to live than I have already lived. Yet still, I can’t come up with any feelings attached to that.

Saying yes to life is about having an excitement down deep that is constantly stirring...not because you know something great IS going to happen, but because you are open to the possibility of what will happen next, and are hopeful about it being great. 

Getting honest with yourself means lowering your shoulders and acknowledging what is hard, what is frustrating, what is out of your comfort zone and then taking a good look at where you could use some support. Getting honest does not mean defeat. It does not mean failure. It is just what is true right now, in this moment. The longer we deny what is true, the longer the moment will last. 

The thinking is a great place to start. But what will transform thoughts into things is the perspectives around these thoughts.

I chose this topic today because I know that it’s relatable. Maybe even more so after a year in this pandemic, but not exclusively. We have constant commentary about wanting to just go. Somewhere. Anywhere. I mean, anywhere but here. Right?