If you do not feel fully aligned, inside and out, spring may be just what you have needed to get moving in the right direction. Even if in this minute, you aren’t sure which direction to move. Let’s go…let’s realign with the blooming of the flowers.

Do you see the signs around you? Or are you moving so swiftly through life that you rarely notice the signs at all? It’s not too late. Take a moment right now and get present with what life has to offer. You won’t regret it.

Be still? Ha! We laugh in the face of being still. Why would we do that? If you don’t know, thanks to the world of technology gifting us immediate answers, all you really need is about 3-5 minutes. If you can bare to wait that long, you will no doubt have opinions and facts to choose from right at your fingertips. Why would we need to go slow when we can move at a lightening pace? Well, there are some important reasons why!

Imagine if we chose a different perspective in the way we helped others. And instead of constantly doing things for others to make ourselves more comfortable, we just ‘let them’ do it on their own? Let’s take a look at what it means to be truly helpful…

Sometimes, the place you are used to, is not the place where you belong. It’s not that you are lost, you just have the sense that post-pandemic has left you feeling a bit misplaced. You are not alone.

I’ve been thinking about the senses that we choose to trust, while being skeptical of others. And also wonder how we are letting these stories get in our way. I mean, there are definitely things we just need to believe, in order to carry on, so what is it that keeps our feet moving in complete darkness as long as our arms are extended?

Empty spaces. I used to count the empty spaces. A continuous checklist of who wasn’t here. Analyzing and over analyzing the reasons given and wondered who just didn’t want to be here. Or rather, who didn’t pick me, who else would feel not chosen, and how I would smooth out everyone else’s feeling around this madness in my mind. Was that ever my job or just an over embellished sense of self that I could make others feel better?

Here is the thing about being happy. We are pretty sure that being happy is dependent upon what is going on around us. The people, the things, the chaos, blended in with the celebrations that life offers. But actually, there is a way to access happiness, no matter what is going on around you!

This seems so obvious that every time I read it, I literally want to roll my eyes. Like, hello? Yes! Why would I continue to carry things around day in and day out when I have zero ability to control it? And how can I possibly think straight about the things I CAN control when I am holding space for the things I CAN’T?

Now, at the corner of midlife, I see how important it is to care for ourselves, while keeping perspective on how others feel. That is a tough one for most of us! The intention is to understand and empathize with others, without having it change the way we feel. You know, so that you can take care of yourself, because that is the end game that leads to an authentically happy life.

Getting to a relaxed state of mind isn’t something that easily occurs, which is why we have such a hard time accessing  it. We are literally waiting for the confirmation that now is the time to relax! 

Instead we simply need to learn how to relax during a moment that we are not currently craving it. 

Saying yes to life is about having an excitement down deep that is constantly stirring...not because you know something great IS going to happen, but because you are open to the possibility of what will happen next, and are hopeful about it being great.