So you want to write a book? Whether you have been thinking about it for days, months or years, or have even had a few attempts at it…you CAN write that book! You just need a new perspective on how to get to the finish line.

Sometimes, the place you are used to, is not the place where you belong. It’s not that you are lost, you just have the sense that post-pandemic has left you feeling a bit misplaced. You are not alone.

What if the story you are telling yourself, about what you have been doing, or what you should be doing, or why you haven’t been doing so many things, isn’t at all about the overwhelm that lies ahead? What if it is something completely different?

Empty spaces. I used to count the empty spaces. A continuous checklist of who wasn’t here. Analyzing and over analyzing the reasons given and wondered who just didn’t want to be here. Or rather, who didn’t pick me, who else would feel not chosen, and how I would smooth out everyone else’s feeling around this madness in my mind. Was that ever my job or just an over embellished sense of self that I could make others feel better?

I hear you and I understand. But even if that is true…a simple perspective shift has the potential to change it all.

Have you ever, and I mean, ever, said ‘no, I definitely can’t do that’ and then unbeknownst to yourself, actually did that thing?! Swim across the lake. Write that book. Get your first client. Get your 100th client. Complete that research project. Fix that thing that has been broken for-ever!?

Yes?! Then you know it’s possible. The question is how do we repeat it? How do we get past the point of saying, no, I can’t, to maybe I can, to I did it!

Now, at the corner of midlife, I see how important it is to care for ourselves, while keeping perspective on how others feel. That is a tough one for most of us! The intention is to understand and empathize with others, without having it change the way we feel. You know, so that you can take care of yourself, because that is the end game that leads to an authentically happy life.

Getting to a relaxed state of mind isn’t something that easily occurs, which is why we have such a hard time accessing  it. We are literally waiting for the confirmation that now is the time to relax! 

Instead we simply need to learn how to relax during a moment that we are not currently craving it. 

Saying yes to life is about having an excitement down deep that is constantly stirring...not because you know something great IS going to happen, but because you are open to the possibility of what will happen next, and are hopeful about it being great. 

Getting honest with yourself means lowering your shoulders and acknowledging what is hard, what is frustrating, what is out of your comfort zone and then taking a good look at where you could use some support. Getting honest does not mean defeat. It does not mean failure. It is just what is true right now, in this moment. The longer we deny what is true, the longer the moment will last. 

You just do it. You force yourself to get up and put one foot in front of the other. Fight the urge to give up. Then go about the business of living. You just do it.”

It’s all about perspective!

I chose this topic today because I know that it’s relatable. Maybe even more so after a year in this pandemic, but not exclusively. We have constant commentary about wanting to just go. Somewhere. Anywhere. I mean, anywhere but here. Right?