What we see in this world depends on our angle and is colored by what we have seen before…
So You Want to Write a Book?
So you want to write a book? Whether you have been thinking about it for days, months or years, or have even had a few attempts at it…you CAN write that book! You just need a new perspective on how to get to the finish line.
What if We Just Let Them?
Imagine if we chose a different perspective in the way we helped others. And instead of constantly doing things for others to make ourselves more comfortable, we just ‘let them’ do it on their own? Let’s take a look at what it means to be truly helpful…
Feeling Misplaced?
Sometimes, the place you are used to, is not the place where you belong. It’s not that you are lost, you just have the sense that post-pandemic has left you feeling a bit misplaced. You are not alone.
Turning the Dial on Negative Thinking
It turns out that you have more control than you think when it comes to your negative thinking. Let’s learn to turn the dial on your negative thoughts.
Reframing Balance, with Life as the Focus.
If you keep living your life the same way you’re living it now, will you get closer of further from your life vision and dreams? Let’s refocus balance and look deeply into Life-Work Balance. Making your Life, the most important part.
Empty Spaces
Empty spaces. I used to count the empty spaces. A continuous checklist of who wasn’t here. Analyzing and over analyzing the reasons given and wondered who just didn’t want to be here. Or rather, who didn’t pick me, who else would feel not chosen, and how I would smooth out everyone else’s feeling around this madness in my mind. Was that ever my job or just an over embellished sense of self that I could make others feel better?
It’s Not Me. It’s THEM.
I hear you and I understand. But even if that is true…a simple perspective shift has the potential to change it all.
Flipping the Script on a Story you Can’t Change.
Did you know that obsessive thinking about things you can’t change, can make you sick? Did you know that it can make you feel lethargic, less capable, emotional and irritated? That it can cause sleep deprivation, which can lead to unhealthy eating? The list goes on and on…
It’s true and you are probably well aware of all the negative side effects. The question is, how do you make it stop? How do you flip the script of a story you cannot change.
We Bottomed Out, Forced to Drift.
If we look beyond moments of grief and all that was lost, some amazing things have happened. Some families learned that they actually enjoyed being hunkered down with each other. Some had the chance to relearn simple things like learning to paint, play an instrument or even enjoy an extravagant puzzle. Time, was on our side. For some that was torture, but also for many, time became divine intervention. Time to float and think.
Gravity Hill and the Pull of Life.
Have you ever, and I mean, ever, said ‘no, I definitely can’t do that’ and then unbeknownst to yourself, actually did that thing?! Swim across the lake. Write that book. Get your first client. Get your 100th client. Complete that research project. Fix that thing that has been broken for-ever!?
Yes?! Then you know it’s possible. The question is how do we repeat it? How do we get past the point of saying, no, I can’t, to maybe I can, to I did it!
I Actually DO Care, it’s Just That I Don’t Mind.
Now, at the corner of midlife, I see how important it is to care for ourselves, while keeping perspective on how others feel. That is a tough one for most of us! The intention is to understand and empathize with others, without having it change the way we feel. You know, so that you can take care of yourself, because that is the end game that leads to an authentically happy life.
Are you where you belong?
I am hours away from turning 55 years old. I have asked myself a hundred times how I feel about this number and quite honestly, I can’t come up with a feeling at all. I have tried to digest the number, put it in perspective and even rationalize it. Reminding myself that even if I live to be 100, I have less life to live than I have already lived. Yet still, I can’t come up with any feelings attached to that.