It turns out that you have more control than you think when it comes to your negative thinking. Let’s learn to turn the dial on your negative thoughts.

Imagine if you had the ability to change the way you see the world. If you could change your own mind by shifting your current perspective, literally altering the way you think and respond to whatever is happening. Think that would be a game changer in your life?

Yes, it would!

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What if the story you are telling yourself, about what you have been doing, or what you should be doing, or why you haven’t been doing so many things, isn’t at all about the overwhelm that lies ahead? What if it is something completely different?

I’ve been thinking about the senses that we choose to trust, while being skeptical of others. And also wonder how we are letting these stories get in our way. I mean, there are definitely things we just need to believe, in order to carry on, so what is it that keeps our feet moving in complete darkness as long as our arms are extended?

If you keep living your life the same way you’re living it now, will you get closer of further from your life vision and dreams? Let’s refocus balance and look deeply into Life-Work Balance. Making your Life, the most important part.

Empty spaces. I used to count the empty spaces. A continuous checklist of who wasn’t here. Analyzing and over analyzing the reasons given and wondered who just didn’t want to be here. Or rather, who didn’t pick me, who else would feel not chosen, and how I would smooth out everyone else’s feeling around this madness in my mind. Was that ever my job or just an over embellished sense of self that I could make others feel better?

It’s a dangerous game of guilt we play when it comes to others. Pretending that it would be best if we took care of everything that makes us feel uncomfortable.

Here is the thing about being happy. We are pretty sure that being happy is dependent upon what is going on around us. The people, the things, the chaos, blended in with the celebrations that life offers. But actually, there is a way to access happiness, no matter what is going on around you!

I hear you and I understand. But even if that is true…a simple perspective shift has the potential to change it all.

Did you know that obsessive thinking about things you can’t change, can make you sick? Did you know that it can make you feel lethargic, less capable, emotional and irritated? That it can cause sleep deprivation, which can lead to unhealthy eating? The list goes on and on…

It’s true and you are probably well aware of all the negative side effects. The question is, how do you make it stop? How do you flip the script of a story you cannot change.

My mom had some one-liners that are deeply embedded in who I am today. All of them having some significant impact.

“You can’t see around corners.” She would say kindly. And even though it was the farthest thing away from what I was thinking in that moment, I found relief every time her words gently hit the air. In general, she had a sweet and loving mama voice, but I was most aware of it when she said something simple and thought-provoking. Something I needed to hear. Even still, deep in the depths of my grief.

But if we seek, we shall find…

Ever wonder why you get so upset listening to someone you care about, often interrupting, rather than listening? The answer may not surprise you, but the solution to becoming a better listener might just do that! And it’s not that hard…